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Practicing Self Love

by | Apr 10, 2019

Have you ever felt as though you weren’t enough? Like maybe if you had a little more this, or a little more that…a smaller nose, waist, bigger butt, etc, that you’d be more valuable. Well, I’ve had moments of feeling inadequate, too. The more I read the Word of God and spend time with Him in daily prayer, the more I realize, I’m not only enough but I’m more than enough in Christ Jesus! And guess what, so are you!

God is not man that He should lie. Every word written in the Bible is truth. The truth we all need to embrace here is:

Psalm 139:14, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

If everything God has made is good and we are made in His image, then we are marvelous beings. We are all unique and it’s a blessing to have differences. How boring would life be if we all looked the same and acted the same!? Unfortunately, with the direction social media is going in, we look at others that we deem beautiful and subconsciously try to be more like them. In turn, we’re losing ourselves.

Remember, beauty is subjective. My friend would frequently remind me, “You’re a gift.” And like all gifts, everyone who receives one doesn’t always like it or want it, but the person that is meant to, will. Even further, just because someone doesn’t want that “gift” it doesn’t take away from the fact that the thing is still very much of value.

So, practically, how do you begin the process of loving yourself more?

  1.    Accept your flaws and appreciate how they set you apart from others.
  2.    Look in the mirror and speak words of affirmation to yourself. I often read the promises of God in the Bible and speak them over my life. (The Word of God is alive and active, Hebrews 4:12, it’s effective in transforming the mind and heart).
  3.    Take care of yourself (whether it be getting your hair and nails done, changing your skincare routine and eating healthier, working out, etc.).
  4.    Shutout all negativity. If you find that you compare yourself to other women on social media, get off of your accounts and give your mind a break. (These accounts should motivate/inspire you, and if you’re having the opposite effect, then stay away. Also, important to pay attention to how you respond  to other beautiful women – appreciate without envying.)
  5.    Remind yourself that you’re valuable and an asset to whatever initiative you’re involved in.
  6.    Your worth comes from God, not people, material possessions and/or accomplishments.
  7.    Read the Bible, pray more, develop your relationship with God and focus on achieving your goals!

Check in with me and let me know if you found these steps to loving yourself more helpful! Also, if you have any suggestions on what to add to these steps or desire to share your testimony with me, please do! I love hearing stories of how women overcome their insecurities.